Divorce-Blogging

No, not me. But the authors of two of the Big Fancy Blogs I read regularly, Get Rich Slowly and Dooce, announced this week that they are either divorcing (in the case of J.D. Roth from GRS) or trial-separating (in the case of Heather Armstrong from Dooce) their spouses. I was actually a little surprised at how emotional my reactions to both announcements were, but I guess I shouldn’t be. Reading someone’s personal blog for years doesn’t mean you know the person as a friend, but you do feel like you know at least some piece of them based on the way they recount their life.

So here I was reading these posts and getting a little upset, and it makes me want to pull my husband a little closer. We’d all like to think we’re immune, I guess.

Against Birthdays

In the spirit of Andy Rooney, I’ve got to complain: Large annual birthday celebrations for humans over the age of 21 are fucking ridiculous. Having a “birthday weekend” — or god forbid a “birthday week” — with multiple events takes the narcissism to a whole new level.

If I were king, anyone over age 21 would be permitted: a small dinner or happy hour with a handful of friends. The end, full stop. Maybe some Rock Band at home, though I’m no fan of Rock Band parties either. You could throw a larger bash on milestone birthdays, no more than once every 10 years.

I finally removed my birthday information from Facebook because the endless stream of insincere birthday wishes just got me depressed. This is not to say I fear growing older — on the contrary I’m actually pretty excited about it. But I think this neverending string of celebrations for not dying during another 365-day period is a bit grandiose.

It could also be because I’m just really, really bad at remembering my friends’ birthdays.

UPDATE: J. tells me that Patton Oswalt has a funny bit on this.

2012 Goals

2011 was the great lost year in terms of me achieving anything in the way of life goals. Because SCREW IT, I got married and a new job. But really the bigger problem was I didn’t set any clear-cut goals, see this post from January 2011. So I’m setting some goals for 2012. I want to talk more about each of these in future posts, but for posterity let me just get them down on the blog:

  1. Yoga three times a week.
  2. Exercise 150 minutes a week. And because I needed some sort of more specific goal-within-the-goal, I want to bench press 110 lbs. by the end of the year. Let it be duly noted this is a pathetic goal, but at the moment I can only handle 55 lbs for three short sets, so I’ve got a ways to go.
  3. Read 1 book per week.
  4. Get back to learning Spanish by completing all of the 13 CDs and accompanying exercises I have from a set I bought a few years ago.
  5. Financial goals: Save up $xx,xxx in our down payment fund, and increase our net worth to $xx,xxx by the end of the year. The numbers aren’t important but I wanted to note these goals here too.

More to come soon.

2011

Apparently a lot of people didn’t have such a great 2011. Is this accurate? Those people shouldn’t read this. I had a really good year, which caps off a string of really good years. Life’s been pretty sweet since I finished grad school and moved to Portland nearly three and a half years ago.

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Paris Portmortem

I forgot to blog about Paris! We had a good time. Our apartment was so, so much tinier than the AirBnb photos conveyed. There was a gap in the floor where we couldn’t step without it knocking over a mug on the nearby table. The bathroom had no vent and smelled moldy. The loft area with our bed was accessed only by climbing a small, vaguely unstable spiral staircase. And it was a 5th-floor walk-up in a building that was clearly crumbling – the stairwell had visible mold and plaster chunks hanging around. Nonetheless! It suited our needs just fine once we got used to its quirks.  The tiny kitchen had only one induction stovetop, but we managed to make dinner 4 nights and breakfast every morning, so that was good. And the location couldn’t be beat – in the 2nd arrondissement, a few steps from the beautiful rue montorgeuil, and within easy access of 4 metro stops.

My French came back! I was shocked at how good I sounded. Granted, I wasn’t having anything more than basic conversations with waiters and shop owners, but I made myself well understood and may have even passed as French once or twice.  A few people spoke back to me in English, which I found rude, so I continued speaking to them in French.

In terms of sight-seeing, we did everything. A few times, I sent J. out on his own, when I wasn’t feeling well enough to get going in the morning in a timely fashion. He navigated the city admirably and managed to go to the Louvre twice by himself, as well as to the Saint-Denis cathedral north of Paris.

Saint-Denis is somewhere I’d never been and wanted to see, but alas I wasn’t feeling up to it. This is where all of the French kings and queens are buried. During the Revolution, their bodies were disinterred and, uh, desecrated with various bodily fluids. Relics and statues were destroyed or vandalized. You can still see where certain statues have slogans and markings on them:

We toured the usual suspects of Paris: the Louvre, the Tuileries, l’Orangerie, Musée d’Orsay, the Pantheon, Musée Cluny, l’Arc de Triomphe, les Champs-Elysées, the Luxembourg gardens, Père Lachaise, Centre Pompidou, and Versailles. I had been to Versailles a few times before but had never gone down to see the Grand Trianon, Petit Trianon, or Marie Antoinette’s little farm. (By the way, have you seen Sophia Coppola’s Marie-Antoinette? Great movie.)  I think Marie-Antoinette gets a bad rap. As J. said to me, “This is basically where she cosplayed as a peasant.” But if you were thrown into her situation, you might have wanted to escape too.

We ate, and ate, and ate, and drank. We planned well on the food, with a few exceptions. First, I accidentally sent J. the wrong phone number for Le Châteaubriand, that uber-hip restaurant I mentioned here, so when I called to confirm our reservation, I was told we didn’t have one. Apparently there’s another Le Châteaubriand in Paris and J’s French friend had probably reserved us a spot there.  Ugh. Also, we were excited to try Frenchie because we knew it was in our neighborhood. On Friday night after a spectacular dinner elsewhere, we found Frenchie to try and get a reservation for Saturday. Not only was it across the street and around the corner from our apartment (we had no idea it was so close), but it’s closed on Saturday and Sunday. Only in France, god dammit.

But don’t pity us, we ate plenty of duck and steak and chicken and cheese and bread and croissants and desserts. And drank good, inexpensive wine. Our other great find, thanks also to David Leibowitz’s blog, was Le Rubis, a crowded old-school French wine bar just off the rue de Rivoli. We managed to squeeze into a tiny table and ate a hearty array of duck confit, oeufs mayonnaise (French deviled eggs), and rillettes – washed down with some good cheap Beaujolais.  I think we may have been the only non-French people there, and we weren’t getting stares, so we must have blended just enough. Le Rubis came complete with gruff waitress. A true Parisienne experience.

I’ll leave you with this photo outside a restaurant we saw:

Which translates to:

“Here, the cows aren’t mad; the chickens don’t have the flu, the pigs don’t have the plague, the cheeses aren’t stuffed with listeria, and eating here won’t make you fat. The food arrives daily, just like our customers.”

Aller-Retour

We are off to Paris early Sunday morning, and yes, the forecast indicates a reasonably high chance of rain throughout our trip.

I am actually really, really worried about my rusty French and whether I’ll be able to communicate with servers and clerks in a way that doesn’t make them point and laugh at me.  I should have brushed up a bit.

We got a reservation at Le Châteaubriand, which was featured on an episode of No Reservations and is still supposedly pretty amazing.

We’re staying smack dab in the center of town in a little apartment that couldn’t be more charming if it tried.  Here is our final Google Map, all choices vetted properly. Happy Thanksgiving to all y’all; on Thursday we’ll probably be eating veal or something equally un-American.

The Silent Year

Let the record show that 2011 was the year ‘Dredge stopped listening to music.

I know.

I know.

It doesn’t have to be this way, as one good friend said. And it doesn’t.  But it is.  There are a lot of reasons for my pathetic track record when it comes to listening to and discovering new music this year. Most of it boils to “get off my lawn” crankiness.  My newish job is fast-paced and doesn’t afford me a wireless connection to stream music, not to mention that for the time being I’m sitting in an open desk surrounded by the chattering class.

I lost and bought and lost a couple of dozen mp3 players (recall that I was the last person in the US of A to own a Zune before that product line shuttered).  I let my subscription to eMusic lapse, which caused me to never download new music ever.  I’ll only do things – go to the gym, go to yoga, download music – if I’ve prepaid for the privilege and feel like I’m not getting my money’s worth if I don’t.

I’ve tried and failed to adequately figure out how to optimize Grooveshark and Spotify.  I like having my entire music collection on one tidy device, so my iPhone is out.  I hate having to create meticulous playlists.  I hate having to go back and switch out tracks when I get bored of the ones I have on there.

Plus, I live in Vancouver, WA instead of Portland now, so fighting traffic to get home and then go back “into town” for a show is almost out of the question these days.  I think I’ve been to one show this year, and it was the Flaming Lips, to whom I swore a blood oath of perpetual attendance at all future shows, so.

To top it off, I commute via car these days. My car is a cherished workhorse, but the stereo system is almost entirely shot. If I put a CD in, there’s no guarantee I’ll ever get it out unless I go at it with a pair of tweezers.  And my car’s old enough (2003) that I have no output to hook in my iPhone. My car doesn’t even have a goddamn tape deck!

I don’t deserve a trace of sympathy, I know. But what would you have me do under these circumstances? I don’t mind not being up on whatever new bands are out there — I’m old, I’m over it — but at this point I’m rarely even listening to my own music collection because it’s so inconvenient. Go on, water me with your crocodile tears.

The Best Laid Plans

Planning for Paris (Thanksgiving 2011!) is proving excruciatingly difficult: how do we balance my needs as someone who’s spent a collective 11 months in the city with J’s needs as a first-time visitor?  Can we excise a few of the “must-see”‘s and find some new unspoiled territory instead? And most importantly, which restaurants will we splurge at?

 

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As you can see, we’re having some trouble narrowing the field down.

Waynestock

Can’t believe I forgot to post this:

The Flaming Lips came to town, as they do, and via the @waynecoyne twitter feed I found out he was going to be at our local records emporium to sign stuff and chat, and also to release the 6-Hour Song for the first time.

I happened to get out of work early that day, so I headed down and stood in line. The man is extremely friendly, to the point where he’ll chat with you for 5 or more minutes after doing the obligatory signatures and photo snaps.  This is endearing but no so much for those further back in line.  I was one of the last three people to meet him before he had to go to the Keller for the show. I bought this (beautiful, by the way — each LP was pressed on different-colored vinyl so no two are the same…mine is a turquoise green), got it signed after spelling my name two/three times (happens), got this photo, and went on my way. He said I was so efficient about the whole thing, which I was, because I had stood in line for two hours and needed to get home before I headed back downtown for the show. The people behind me were grateful for me speeding myself through. He really is the sweetest, most genuine guy.

I don’t even own a record player!

The show was also great, my seventh time to see them. This time featured a Dark Side of the Moon cover and interesting things with lasers that I’ve never seen them do before.  I also note that Wayne has stopped playing Taps on the bugle as part of the setlist, which they’ve done since the Iraq War started, so…if we judge by the Flaming Lips Protocol, I think the wars are over?

So that was a good day.

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